A Long Lasting Relationship.

Build your Relationship on a Bedrock.

 

Freedom and communication are the greatest enemies of a relationship, yet the engine to the vehicle which sustains it well-being. These are key players when it comes to dealing with toxicity that can arise within relationships.

 

Have you ever stopped to think, why is it only a small percentage of people have an amazing relationship? And asked yourself, what is their secret?

 

Relationships take work and can seem exhausting if you do not have the right formula.

There is not an equation to life or a perfect relationship where you have to find the value of “X”, but you can develop your own with few and easily accessible variables. I have always considered communication as the mother of all skills you could possibly imagine or think of. Given that we are constantly communicating, whether it is verbal or non-verbal. Many relationships today, not only romantic ones, are usually hindered due to a great lack of communication.

 

Communication is a two-way street.

 

Where there is a lack of communication, there is great confusion and misunderstanding in most case scenarios. The true essence of a relationship is built on communication, because it is through communication that you will get a better understanding of what your colleague or partner expects of you, the opinions they have of you, how they feel, and vice versa. 

 

As individuals we should not rely solely on our non-verbal cues, merely because people differ. A good majority of humankind, proceed to certain actions without explaining the why behind the what, and they expect the other person to understand without searching to make them understand. I only wish we all had superpowers to read and easily understand each other's actions and true intentions. Fortunately, it is beyond our capabilities. 

It is important to bear in mind that some people are not alert to non-verbal cues, therefore this may affect your freedom to not communicate verbally and the relationship at large. Also, do not expect your partner to guess or understand right away the message you are trying to pass across without necessarily doing the needful to make the task simple.

 

Some people also communicate without being clear and straightforward in their statements. 

This is also another challenge that you may encounter when trying to build a healthy relationship. Regardless of if you are communicating or not, ambiguity in your message can be an obstacle to effective communication.

 

 

Parable of the Wise and the Foolish Builders.

 

The Bible teaches us that a person that builds a house on solid rock is safe from destruction because it is built on bedrock. In contrast, it says that any house that is built on sand is prone to collapse when the rains and floods come. Mathew 7:24-27. I would like to use this particular verse from the bible to illustrate the true essence of what I am trying to convey in these few lines.

 

When you want to build a house, you have a preconceived plan and a vision of how you want it to be, in most cases. You may or may not know the materials required to achieve the right results and/or who to consult for assistance. But one thing for sure, you know that the house will require maintenance as long as it lasts. And many other things that you might put into consideration when considering to build a house, the list could go on but just to name a few. It takes effort, patience and communication between you and the service providers so that you can get the results you are seeking to see.

 

In relationships it is similar. When you build your relationship on good communication, you should not worry about getting misunderstood. And if that is the case, there is no worry because you know you can talk to your partner and come to a common ground. However, if that is not the case, this is where many relationships take the exit lane and part ways. Due to a great lack of communication.

The foundation of a healthy and successful relationship is built through communication and mutual understanding. It is very difficult for a couple that grasps the full meaning and importance of communication to tear apart. Merely because there is nothing that cannot be resolved when two people can communicate effectively, have the freedom to freely express their feeling, expectation and emotions in a respectful way. 

 

Effective communication is a skill we can all learn and develop, and when we do it will significantly increase our chances of having one of those outstanding relationships also known as relationship goals. 

Humbly,

@MademoizelleZaye